Non-rhetorical. The spelling suggestion suggests an improvement which largely unambiguous/style-agnostic. Suggesting adding a word requires choosing a word - a matter which is ambiguous/style dependent. Sometimes writing contains grammatical errors - but when people other than the author suggest fixes, the fixes don't have the same voice. This is why I included a prompt for what word you (Hazard) would use.
For clarity, I can make less vague comments in the future. What I wanted to say rephrased:
they intentionally or [un]intentionally communicate:
"You aren't really in pain. Or if you are, you shouldn't be in pain / you suck or are weak for feeling pain right now." Being told you aren't in pain SUCCCKS, especially when you're in pain.
Claim: Even if you've reached a point it would be to costly to give the other person adequate emotional support, the least you can do is not make them think they're being gaslit about[/mocked for] their pain.
Here the  serve one purpose - suggesting improvement, even when there's multiple choices.
In light of reading through Raemon's shortform feed, I'm making my own. Here will be smaller ideas that are on my mind.