If you have no interest in eventually procreating, is serious dating worth the massive time and emotional investment necessary?

Edit: part of the reason i am asking is for external belief checking

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(after having read your replies to Elo's reply)

Another data point: I'm wondering about this too despite kind of the opposite interests: Relationship without procreation feels like something important missing. I already have four sons so procreation is kind of satisfied. After breaking up I'm feeling kind of freed but I'm also missing company - so why not date to form a new relationship? Sure. But wouldn't that mean that I'd 'exploit' a potential partner - her getting the worse end of the bargain given my children. I'd bet that corresponding calculations ar... (read more)

3Tem425ySince you have also indicated that you are interested in finding a life partner, and since the value of a life partner is dependent on your personality (and not a hypothetical 'ideal personality'), you may be asking the wrong question. A more relevant question might be "what are ways to reduce the investment cost of finding a life partner?" Once that question is answered, then you will have to decide if it is worth the investment.
4atorm5yYes. I'm married and have a polyamorous girlfriend, with no intention of reproducing. The relationships are fulfilling and provide social stability. And sex with a partner improves over time, so even if that were your only goal long term relationships might be worth pursuing.

Stupid Questions July 2015

by Gondolinian 1 min read1st Jul 2015123 comments


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