A humble suggestion. (Apologies for not answering the specific question you are asking, but asking another one that you revealed when you framed the question in this way)

If you are not motivated to naturally go about "serious dating". Then don't do it. It may be a social norm, but thats usually because people are motivated to do it.

Having said that - if you are trying to convince yourself that it's a waste of time; not this way. It's not.

You don't have to put up a massive investment in order to succeed in dating. A massive investment is something that I would equate to as "risky behaviour". If you start small and grow gradually out of successes - that is how you can limit your risk while also winning at life. (arguments swing each way for "investment" and whether a big investment is needed to really make it big, but that's always something you can chance after some learning)

Good luck :)

I considered spending half an hour crafting my question so that people could understand me perfectly and clearly but sometimes I just throw a question out there and see what sort of responses I get. On the internet people respond more often to short questions than giant blocks of text anyway. (Maybe I should change my policy a bit on LW as compared to other locations? Probably.)

You answered one of the questions within the question that I was asking and thank you for that! People have lots of motivations and my motivations are occasionally different than ot... (read more)

Stupid Questions July 2015

by Gondolinian 1 min read1st Jul 2015123 comments


This thread is for asking any questions that might seem obvious, tangential, silly or what-have-you. Don't be shy, everyone has holes in their knowledge, though the fewer and the smaller we can make them, the better.

Please be respectful of other people's admitting ignorance and don't mock them for it, as they're doing a noble thing.

To any future monthly posters of SQ threads, please remember to add the "stupid_questions" tag.