But I normally understand "I'm feminine" to mean "I want to do (list of things)".

To you really think it's not about self identity?

I'm not sure I understand the concept of "self identity as X" that is independent of wanting to do any particular things that X do. If there was such a thing, it would be meaningful to say "I'm feminine but I don't want to do any feminine things" which I'm pretty sure would not be accepted very much. And I can't think of any other cases when we accept that., either.

(I suppose "being treated by others as X" isn't the same as wanting to do X-type things yourself, but it doesn't seem to me that that is what is being talked about. And it's not that differtent anyway.)

Stupid Questions July 2015

by Gondolinian 1 min read1st Jul 2015123 comments


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