How do I learn to accurately model other people?

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If you mean explicitly/mathematically, you can't learn that, you have to discover that (and likely get a Nobel shortly thereafter).

If you mean intuitively/qualitatively, well, I bet B&N has a shelf of books about that, though they're probably called How To Understand (or Manage) People.

It might also be that you actually mean "How can I forecast how will that girl react to X?". That's a different question altogether :-D

5mwengler7yTake a sculpting class with live nude models.
3[anonymous]7yHumans are generally pretty well-equipped to model other people, and you can practice using that equipment. Imagine as vividly as possible what it would be like to be the other person. Be aware of your own past feelings and other mental processes, in such a way that you can access those memories when you notice that the other person might be experiencing something which is (on some axis) familiar to you. Keeping a journal can help with that. It's also useful take some time to think of your own ways to practice this, where 'practice' includes getting and incorporating feedback. As Qiaochu points out you can be empirical. I would add that 'testing hypotheses' includes asking people about their internal state. If you know anyone who seems to 'get people' especially well, ask them how they do their thing. Look for existing resources on building empathy skills.

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This is a thread where people can ask questions that they would ordinarily feel embarrassed for not knowing the answer to. The previous "stupid" questions thread went to over 800 comments in two and a half weeks, so I think it's time for a new one.