It depends on how you define the term.

I define it as "arousing sexual interest and desire in people of appropriate gender and culture". Note that this is quite different from "beautiful" and is a narrow subset of "attractive".

the term refers to letting a woman feel sexual tension.

"Tension" generally implies conflict or some sort of a counterforce.

"Tension" generally implies conflict or some sort of a counterforce.

Testosterone which is commonly associated with sexiness in males is about dominance. It has something to do with power that does create tension.

Of course a woman can decide to have sex with shy a guy because he's nice and she thinks that he's intelligent or otherwise a good match. Given that there are shy guys who do have sex that's certainly happening in reality.

Does that mean that the behavior of that guy deserves the label "sexy"? I don't think he's commonly giv... (read more)

Open thread, January 25- February 1

by NancyLebovitz 1 min read25th Jan 2014318 comments

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