If a man succeeds in signaling a high sexuality to a women, the woman might still treat him as a creep.

In which case he failed to signal "sexy" and (a common failure mode) signaled "creepy" instead.

It depends on how you define the term.

For a reasonable definition of sexy, the term refers to letting a woman feel sexual tension. If you talk about social interactions it's useful to have a word that refers to making another person feel sexual tension.

Of course you can define beautiful, attractive and sexy all the same way. Then you get a one dimensional model where Bob wants Alice with utility rating X. I don't think that's model is very useful to understanding how humans behave in mating situations.

Open thread, January 25- February 1

by NancyLebovitz 1 min read25th Jan 2014318 comments


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