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Replacing Guilt

Mar 02, 2022 by So8res

My goal is to help people remove guilt-based motivation entirely, and replace it with intrinsic motivation. I'm aiming to both reduce the frequency of Netflix binges and reduce the bad feelings that follow. I'm aiming to help people feel like they're still worthwhile human beings if they stop working before they literally drop.

A sequence about replacing guilt with other feelings and finding better ways to self-motivate, so that you can build a better future without falling apart in the process.

When all is said and done, Nature will not judge us by our actions; we will be measured only by what actually happens. Our goal, in the end, is to ensure that the timeless history of our universe is one that is filled with whatever it is we're fighting for. For me, at least, this is the underlying driver that takes the place of guilt: Once we have learned our lessons from the past, there is no reason to wrack ourselves with guilt. All we need to do, in any given moment, is look upon the actions available to us, consider, and take whichever one seems most likely to lead to a future full of light.

Originally posted on Minding Our Way. There's also an official audio version.

Preliminaries
92Half-assing it with everything you've got
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48Failing with abandon
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Fighting for something
29Replacing guilt
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65The Stamp Collector
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25You're allowed to fight for something
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28Caring about something larger than yourself
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22You don't get to know what you're fighting for
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Drop your obligations
31"Should" considered harmful
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23Not because you "should"
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26Your "shoulds" are not a duty
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Half monkey, half god
25Working yourself ragged is not a virtue
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28Rest in motion
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20Shifting guilt
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28Don't steer with guilt
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21Update from the suckerpunch
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20Be a new homunculus
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18Not yet gods
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26Where coulds go
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20Self compassion
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21There are no "bad people"
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12Residing in the mortal realm
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The dark world
12Being unable to despair
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10See the dark world
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15Choose without suffering
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33Detach the grim-o-meter
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18Simply locate yourself
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16Have no excuses
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17Come to your terms
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14Transmute guilt into resolve
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18The best you can
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21Dark, not colorless
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Fire within
48Stop trying to try and try
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18There is no try
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22Obvious advice
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14The art of response
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25Confidence all the way up
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16Desperation
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12Recklessness
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19Defiance
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21How we will be measured
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Related
242On Caring
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19The Value of a Life
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16Moving towards the goal
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18Self-signaling the ability to do what you want
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17Productivity through self-loyalty
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17Conclusion of the Replacing Guilt series
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