I am not an expert on dating. In fact, I am an extremely conservative male who is not polyamorous and who is not really interested in dating. I am already married. I in fact never really dated anyone to begin with, except my wife.

However, I have seen my friends approach dating in a way that seems irrational to me.

What is Algorithmic Dating? It is some process. It is an algorithm that is executed. People also are computer programs. A certain number of information packets are exchanged and the end result is a relationship, either short-term or long-term.

First let me outline an algorithm that I think will work better than what my friends who are vastly more liberal are doing.

There is the notion of smooth functions. Your intimacy graph can look like a straight line, it can look like a step function. It can look like a y = x ^ 2 curve, etc.

I am thinking it should be like a straight line at a 45 degree angle.

Some of my friends are even discussing things like escalation windows and how to make a move? I am thinking no moves should be made.

A move is a discrete step function jump. What should happen is a 45 degree angle straight line.

On the first day, you simply say “hello”. Then you increase interaction length to 2 words on the second day, then to 3 words on the third day, then to 4 words on the 4th day. At any given point if the person you are interested in does not reply, you can mark them as not interested and move on to the next person.

I am not really sure why people have this thinking that people should try again if a person does not reply. This I am thinking does not make sense. Now increasing things 1 word at a time in each Day is a contrived example. However, 1 sentence per Day is not a contrived example.

You can exchange upto 50 or 100 sentences per Day.

Then you should not make a move. You should not suddenly ask this girl out. I am writing from a male standpoint. I have no idea what a female perspective on this will be.

What you should do is meet this person in a social gathering. This gathering should have 10-12 people. This social gathering also should not happen in a step function way. First a WhatsApp group let us say must be formed for this social gathering. Or this person should be invited to an existing social gathering. Even better still since most people do not organize social gatherings, you have to get invited to the social gathering this person i...

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