This is a great write-up!
re: "As best you can, try not to worry about the other participants' experience, when it is your turn to be the focus of the circle...."
I think it's pretty important to hit this point strongly in the initial context setting part, ala "Then (even if everyone present has already been in a Hamming circle before!) it helps to have someone explicitly set context, and to remind the group".
Even though you had the paragraph referenced above and the paragraph with "The idea is that, for the duration of the circle, instead of having ac...
To be fair, I was exaggerating when I used the phrase at war. I basically like people. I've always, in many ways, liked the participants. And, in many ways, I have not liked them. Not due to anything about them, but a sort of.. invisible structure I felt? Like a pressure that would ask me to hold myself in a particular way. And so in the past, I was in the workshop as an avatar of the entity CFAR, and an avatar of Holding the Cool Skills, and that invited in a lot of masking which blocked genuine connection. I used to spend as much time hiding outside of c... (read more)