I could easily argue the opposite way: Once perfect sex becomes something you can easily buy in a form of sex robots, and the practice becomes so widespread that it will be socially accepted by the mainstream... maybe the partner relationships will become better, because people would use them to optimize for other values -- such as being nice to each other, being a good conversational partner, etc.

Has this happened with any other technologically supplied superstimulus?

"Technologically applied superstimulus" is a pretty narrow category, but here are a couple of things that come close enough that I think they're relevant.

My impression is that gourmet food has become more interesting as the need for it also to be filling has decreased (because industrial-scale food production has made adequate food really cheap, much as sexbots might hypothetically make adequate sex really easy to get; "perfect" seems too much to hope for).

There is some evidence that violent video games reduce their users' tendency to engage in actual physical violence.

1c_edwards5yIt seems like the relevance would be if the technologically supplied superstimulus replaced a function previously supplied solely through partner relationships. The following chain of examples involving video games doesn't seem directly relevant, unless before the advent of video games, people played board games exclusively with their romantic partners.
0Elo5ytechnology stimulus examples: * Video Games * Facebook * Microwaves (There was a fear that microwaves would destroy the nature of decency of food culture, I for one use both an oven and a microwave and a stove for different purposes) * fast food * TV to newspapers * Computers to TV * Texting to writing a letter In all of these cases, technology has found its place among the various options to fulfilling the need. Yes some people get addicted to videogames; but people also get addicted to alcohol.

Rational approach to finding life partners

by c_edwards 1 min read16th Aug 2015128 comments


Speaking from personal experience, finding the right relationship can be HARD. I recently came across a rational take on finding relationship partners, much of which really resonated with my experiences:




(I'm still working my way through the Sequences, and lw has more than eight thousand articles with "relationship" in them. I'm not promising the linked articles include unique information)