I'm going to attempt the exercise of turning "Don't dominate conversations" into something that you can train yourself to do on the 5-second level.
I count the number of active (or would-be active) members of a conversation and convert that into a rough percentage that I can hold in my mind quite easily. Three people = 33%, Four people = 25% and so on.
I keep an approximate running guess of the percentage of the conversation time where I was speaking (no more accurate than an amateur card counter in Blackjack needs to be) and use it to guide my behaviour when I want to contribute something.
If I'm over the 33% in a 3-person conversation (especially if it's by a lot) then it is now time to dedicate myself to listening to others and letting others respond (even if I'm dying to say something in response myself) and wait until I'm reasonably certain that I'm under or close to the 33% before I jump back in. Heck, I might even interrupt someone(!)
I'm going to attempt the exercise of turning "Don't dominate conversations" into something that you can train yourself to do on the 5-second level.
I count the number of active (or would-be active) members of a conversation and convert that into a rough percentage that I can hold in my mind quite easily. Three people = 33%, Four people = 25% and so on.
I keep an approximate running guess of the percentage of the conversation time where I was speaking (no more accurate than an amateur card counter in Blackjack needs to be) and use it to guide my behaviour when I want to contribute something.
If I'm over the 33% in a 3-person conversation (especially if it's by a lot) then it is now time to dedicate myself to listening to others and letting others respond (even if I'm dying to say something in response myself) and wait until I'm reasonably certain that I'm under or close to the 33% before I jump back in. Heck, I might even interrupt someone(!)