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Alicorn50

I mean, sure, it looks like that when people who sound credible to you are checking.

Alicorn4828

Our world would seem mundane to us no matter what was in it.  Maybe it's actually wildly unrealistic that many people keep cats as pets.  Maybe dandelions are some kind of Easter egg.  Maybe our so-called natural languages are ludicrously simple and regular compared to the monstrosities real people with real history speak.

Alicorn230

I like this enough that I'm considering picking a screenshot of the Goddess of Everything Else and replacing my twelve year old standard avatar with it.

Alicorn2713

“what is your fantasy partner/complement organization?”

I love this question and would never have thought of it on my own.

Our younger kiddo went through a period of calling his big sister "gago" because he couldn't pronounce her name.  Her opinion of this was a long-suffering sigh and "I'll be whatever he can say."

Alicorn353

I kind of doubt you care at all, but here for interested bystanders is more information on my stance.

  • I suspect you of brigading-type behavior wrt conflicts you get into.  Even if you make out like it's a "get out the vote" campaign where the fact that rides to the polls don't require avowing that you're a Demoblican is important to your reception, when you're the sort who'll tell all your friends someone is being mean to you and then the karma swings around wildly I make some updates.  This social power with your clique of admirers in combination with your contagious lens on the world that they pick up from you is what unnerves me.
  • I experience a lot of your word choices (e.g. "gossiping behind [your] back") as squirrelly[1] , manipulative, and more rhetoric than content.  I would not have had this experience in this particular case if, for example, you'd said "criticizing [me] to an unsympathetic audience".  Gossip behind one's back is a social move for a social relationship.  One doesn't clutch one's pearls about random people gossiping about Kim Kardashian behind her back.  We have never met.  I'd stand a better chance of recognizing Ms. Kardashian in the grocery store than you.  I have met some people who know some people who you hang out with, but it's disingenuous to suggest that I had any affordances to instead gossip to your face, or that it's mean to dislike your public blog posts and then talk about disliking them with my friends[2].
  • Further, it's rhetorically interesting that you said "Apparently the only dynamic you found acceptable was "I say mean stuff and Duncan just takes it.""  You didn't try a lot of different dynamics!  I said I was favorably impressed when you didn't respond.  If someone is nervous about you, holding very still and not making any hostile moves is a great way to help them feel safe, and when you tried that (or... looked like you were trying it) it worked.  The only other thing you tried was, uh, this, which, as I'm explaining here, I do not find impressive.  However, scientists have discovered that there are often more than two possible approaches to social conflict.  You could have tried something else!  Maybe you could have dug up a mutual friend who'd mediate, or asked a neutral curious question about whether there was something I could point to that would help you understand why you were coming off badly, instead of unloading a dump truck of sneaky nasty connotations on my lap.  Maybe you believe every one of those connotations in your heart of hearts.  This does not imbue your words with magic soothing power, any more than my intentions successfully accompanied my analogy about weird bugs.  You still seem sneaky and nasty to me.
  1. ^

    I maintain that I sincerely like squirrels; I am using a colloquial definition which, of definitions I found on the internet, most closely matches the Urban Dictionary cluster.

  2. ^

    The "I talk about things with my friends, you brigade" conjugation is not lost on me but I wish to point out in my defense that, as I said in my original comment, I did not intend to touch this situation where it could possibly affect you until it seemed like it was also affecting Said, of whom I am fond.

Oh, no, it's absolutely negative.  I don't like you.  I just don't specifically think that you are disgusting, and it's that bit of the reaction to the analogy that caught me by surprise.

"Oh, I'm going to impute malice with the phrase 'gossiping behind my back' about someone I have never personally interacted with before who talked about my public blog posts with her friends, when she's specifically remarked that she's worried about fallout from letting me know that she doesn't care for me!" is also kind of a take, and a pretty good example of why I don't like you.  I retract the tentative positive update I made when your only reaction to my comment had been radio silence; I'd found that really encouraging wrt it being safe to have opinions about you where you might see them, but no longer.

Alicorn122

Welp, guess I shouldn't pick up frogs.  Not what I expected to be the main takeaway from this thread but still good to know.

I think most poisonous frogs look it and would accordingly pick up a frog that wasn't very brightly colored if I otherwise wanted to pick up this frog, whereas bugs may look drab while being dangerous.

I'm sorry!  I'm sincerely not trying to indicate that.  Duncan fascinates and unnerves me but he does not revolt me.  I think that "weird bug" made sense to my metaphor generator instead of "weird plant" or "weird bird" or something is that bugs have extremely widely varying danger levels - an unfamiliar bug may have all kinds of surprises in the mobility, chemical weapons, aggressiveness, etc. department, whereas plants reliably don't jump on you and birds are basically all just WYSIWYG; but many weird bugs are completely harmless, and I simply do not know what will happen to me if I poke Duncan.

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