Countersignaling vaguely reminds me of Benign Boundary Violations! Both of these work when you know the other person well enough – which can be nice by making them feel seen.

That’s a fair question! In short, I don’t quite agree with population ethics, and I’m skeptical of the quantification that comes with utilitarianism.

Of course, these are separate topics worthy of discussion. Hope to write thoughts on them soon!

Great post, thanks so much!!

Ooh, Value Learning sounds cool – I'll check that out. 
And yup, explicitly noting Goodhart's Law would have been nice.

Thanks for the comment!

I found The Flinch (Julien Smith) to be a good read! It’s less a book, and more an extended self-help essay. It was also useful to approach it as learning a soft skill, rather than explicitly gaining novel information.

The Action-Waiting-Reference framework clicked for me – thank you!

Ooh that makes sense – thank you!

I’m not sure I understand indexical uncertainty! To clarify – if we lived in a classical world, would this uncertainty not be present?

Ooh, this sounds like a neat follow-up – thank you for sharing!