Cheese Mann
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The ambition / salary thing is BS, it's really simple
There's a hidden thing the women making a lot of money don't say which is that they largely will exclusively date men who earn >= them
The more honest ones will say this explicitly to their friends. The less honest ones will still feel out the man and try to guess.
That's all it is, that + a bit of age
Like as a guy when I was making top 1% income I was ~30 y/o
The % of women I could date was at an all time high, 99% of women wouldn't rule me out over income, and the widest % of the dating market wouldn't... (read more)
I think it's still a powerful tool for the many of us with some mix of OCD / Autism / whatever is in the water these days
I realized very slowly and with much pain that I am someone who massively overthinks everything I do
I am someone who very much should "just do things" like 3x more than I would naturally feel drawn to do
Doing so has brought me much success and almost everything good in life
Certainly it can be taken too far, but my impression was that the phrase was to a great extent directed at a certain person / TPOT / rationalist type who are insane overthinkers
... (read more)Taking online dating seriously, rather than passively swiping or hoping I randomly bump into “the one”. I reasoned from first principles that having a good partner is very valuable, and that online dating was a numbers game. So I borrowed my friend’s DSLR camera, took good outdoor pictures, and used this website that lets strangers vote on which of your pictures is the best so I didn’t have to rely on my own judgment for that. I researched Tinder bios and put effort into my bio. I swiped like crazy on two dating apps. I paid for premium. If you’re online dating but not paying for premium, I invite you to do
I agree with this and think it's interesting (I actually already have a nice block of SPY leaps)
That said, I have far more conviction in NVDA and similar assets, so I think my total profit from either strategy would work out to be about the same
Like NVDA could 10x, this could 50x, but I'm gonna put 5x as much in NVDA
Trade is not voluntary, nothing is voluntary, we do everything without a choice
I like this post a lot.
Personally I am an even less altruistic Bob, who is still slightly altruistic. I would guess that 1% or less of my effort and resources go to altruistic causes.
But I accept most of the logical arguments and most of the facts / conclusions.
The very reason I don't step up to at least become Bob is because of the Alices of the world.
If I identify with the good (pure?) too much, the good people then have in-group status which they can use as a tool to extract more value from me.
I think it's one of those things you can't logic people into doing, because there's always "well at... (read more)
I agree with all of this and it underscores why I loathe networking
Trying to hit the balance of not being overly transactional and signaling the right way but also trying to make sure that my signaling itself isn't perceived as conscious (which it is) is agonizing for me
I strongly believe that at least half of the population would never believe it is an unbiased source of information no matter what you do, and would find the centralization very suspicious
This feels closely related to Alexithymia or emotion blindness
Extremely common in: people with ADHD / Autism (potentially over half)
Fairly common in: people who have PTSD, people with substance abuse issues (possibly causal, alexithymia -> drugs to feel something), and men (male-normative alexithymia)
People with alexithymia often identify their emotions primarily through physical sensations
For me (a male with autism, ADHD and PTSD) I can tell I'm feeling scared or anxious if my legs get cold (I believe this is a common form)
IMO the best way for anyone to date is try to relax any constraints as much as you feel comfortable with as much as you can, but not further (education, age, income), and then date for overall chemistry & attractiveness within those constraints.
It's already so hard to find someone who is physically attractive (and finds you attractive), and who you will be able to live with for 50+ years and enjoy living with, why make it harder for yourself by maximizing every single requirement