EDIT TO ADD: a friend suggested I add a warning at the top of this post. The wording is theirs, but I basically endorse it. "Warning: The author of this post describes speedy seductions that rely on context and body language to understand what women want without asking directly. It works for the author and his sexual partners, but imitating the author's seduction style could result in serious boundary violations if you aren't unusually skilled at understanding context and body language. Err on the side of not committing sexual assaults."

There's a genre of dating discourse which I wish were more common, in which people just tell detailed stories of their own flirtation, courtships, dating, hookups, sex, fights, relationships, etc, etc. People tend to instead write about abstract lessons learned and takeaways and models, but so often those lessons and takeaways and models just don't match my actual observations (of myself or others) at all. So I'm left thinking "ok, clearly this person is Missing Something, but maybe I am also Missing Something, so what the heck is going on here?". Without their raw data, their actual detailed stories, I don't have the pieces to put together an accurate model.

Anyway, in a recent comment, I mentioned

Going through the list of women I've slept with, the median is around 30 minutes of direct interaction between first meeting and sex.

... and apparently a whole lot of people are very surprised and confused at this. So I guess it's a good time to write the genre I want to see. Here are some stories from my own life, which I think are pretty representative of my experiences.

Be warned, this is definitely going to be NSFW.

Story 1

I was at a fusion dance^[1] in the Bay Area.

Background: I'm a pretty good dancer. At that point I'd been partner dancing for about 15 years. I'd also broken up a month earlier, so I had a sudden influx of time on my hands, and I'd been going out dancing more regularly than usual - maybe once or twice a week. On this particular evening, I was definitely in a In The Market sort of mood, keeping an eye out for sexual opportunities.

As usual, I rotated around dancing with different people each song. There were maybe two or three girls who seemed particularly into the dance, and who I asked for another. A couple of those cases involved very intimate "micro" dances - basically, you dance in a tight hug, with very small ...

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