Thinking slightly outside the box here... seems that most of the benefits you identify could also be satisfied by a drug (e.g. valium) that has similar effects without being so freaking toxic (though similarly addictive). Maybe we need to bring back recreational valium. Casual pop-culture reading suggests to me that back in the 70s-80s, valium & quaaludes & the like were quite the thing in party circles.
Some (actually, Much) additional nuance about empathy and its components that might add some context to this discussion at this link: https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/SMziBSCT9fiz5yG3L/notes-on-empathy
In particular, as other commenters have already pointed out, there is something about "perspective taking" (the shift from considering how you feel about what they feel to considering how they feel) that may be resulting in the OP's frustration.
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FWIW, I would find it helpful for you to define this term on first use.
A wikipedia-style short biography of a person will tell you what they did and accomplished.
A good, critical, book-length biography can help you see, in something more like real-time, what decisions the person made along the way, what constraints they were operating under, how the effects of those decisions looked as they happened (without the benefit of hindsight), and what atmospheric effects contributed to the arc of the person's life. This is much more personally applicable to you as the reader who has to live your life in real-time.
I enjoy reading biographies of people who made unusual commitments so I can imagine what that sort of pioneer work might have felt like. An extremely weird example (both in the writing style and the subject matter) that has stuck with me is Gabriella Fiori's biography of Simone Weil (Simone Weil: An Intellectual Biography). Another good one is Fiona Joseph's biography of Beatrice Cadbury (Beatrice: the Cadbury Heiress Who Gave Away Her Fortune). Sue Prideaux's I Am Dynamite! A Life of Nietzsche was everything I wanted in a Nietzsche bio.
I have just a superficial familiarity with the lit around this, and I'm wondering if what you're calling "unawareness" is the same concept as what other people have been calling "cluelessness" in this context, or if it is distinct in some way. They seem at least similar.
In any case, thanks for trying to set forth in a rigorous way this problem with the EA project.
Notes on Honesty mentions a few more, including trustworthiness/reliability/dependability/conscientiousness (being honest about your promises by following-through on them), parrhesia (a sort of super-frankness pioneered by the Cynic philosophers), reputability (earning a reputation for honesty), sincerity/earnestness/authenticity (being honest in deed, not behaving ironically or in plausibly-deniable ways), straightforwardness (communicating directly, not requiring interpretation or second-guessing).
See also Notes on Sincerity and such.
A very similar project called "Repledge" launched in 2012, but then fizzled. I don't know why. But you might try to track down their story and learn from their fail if you want to make this project succeed.
https://web.archive.org/web/20120415055024/http://www.repledge.com/
Yeah, GHB is kind of nice in being alcohol-like without some of the worst effects. But I think the thin line between effective-dose and unconscious-dose makes it unlikely to fill this niche (remembering a Burning Man 20 years or so ago in which we inadvertently posed as Camp Jonestown Massacre after a couple dozen people took just a little too much and ended up splayed at random locations).