I think self-care and radical self-acceptance are no. 1, and then therapy to deal with the side effects of being undiagnosed for so long, thereafter psychiatry to deal with lingering symptoms that can't be corrected with coping strategies. A skills group is very helpful too! Best is to find a group of friends who is accepting and can help you stay patient with yourself to find the best way for YOU to live with adhd -- even if it might be different than what "regular society" may expect.
Here are a few great resources I have started to find since my (somewhat) recent diagnosis:
It has also felt hopeful to keep in the loop with research articles on adhd and new treatments / insights / coping options. :) You can do this, for example, by having various journals (like Nature) email you when new articles on the topic (keywords) come out.
Like others have said already, the first step is diagnosis. I found it really helpful to get my diagnosis through a hospital with a neuropsychiatric/psychology department, since they may provide more help post-diagnosis than other places, such as getting you started with therapy or psychiatry, as well as other resources. They will also be the best people to talk to about if you think you might have other diagnoses that interact with one another.
I think self-care and radical self-acceptance are no. 1, and then therapy to deal with the side effects of being undiagnosed for so long, thereafter psychiatry to deal with lingering symptoms that can't be corrected with coping strategies. A skills group is very helpful too! Best is to find a group of friends who is accepting and can help you stay patient with yourself to find the best way for YOU to live with adhd -- even if it might be different than what "regular society" may expect.
Here are a few great resources I have started to find since my (somewhat) recent diagnosis:
It has also felt hopeful to keep in the loop with research articles on adhd and new treatments / insights / coping options. :) You can do this, for example, by having various journals (like Nature) email you when new articles on the topic (keywords) come out.
Like others have said already, the first step is diagnosis. I found it really helpful to get my diagnosis through a hospital with a neuropsychiatric/psychology department, since they may provide more help post-diagnosis than other places, such as getting you started with therapy or psychiatry, as well as other resources. They will also be the best people to talk to about if you think you might have other diagnoses that interact with one another.
Good luck! And keep hope :)