I have a lot of unsolicited advice here and it should be taken as such. I'm not trying to persuade but trying to say things I wish someone would have told me when I was younger. I've only lurked on LW up to now. Please, someone tell me, if I'm breaking any rules.
I haven't been on any dates since 2015-ish (I'm old and very happily married, now). So, this advice may be a bit outdated. But that is beauty of unsolicited advice; you can keep what fits your priors and throw the rest away.
I could go on but it is getting late and I need to go make dinner with my wife. :)