When John told me (Gretta) his practice of “visioning,” I was skeptical at first. I gave it a try, a little bit out of spite, to show him I was capable of it. It blew me away. Here’s what I told him about it a few days later, edited for...
EDIT TO ADD: a friend suggested I add a warning at the top of this post. The wording is theirs, but I basically endorse it. "Warning: The author of this post describes speedy seductions that rely on context and body language to understand what women want without asking directly. It...
Assumed background: Kolmogorov complexity and Solomonoff induction. Suppose I have some data , and I go looking for the models (i.e. programs) which best compress that data. I find two different programs, and , which both reproduce the data using approximately the same number of bits, and that seems to...
You’re at a party/bar/whatever. Across the room, you see an attractive stranger. Your eyes meet. You hold her gaze for a moment. She glances away, then back again. You both look at each other, quietly staring. So begins the flirtation. A month ago, I went to a sex club for...
Part of what makes a pencil a good object is that all its parts share approximately the same rotational velocity - i.e. it's a rigid body object. Part of what makes a squirrel a good object is that its parts share approximately the same genome. Part of what makes the...
There’s a standard story which says roughly "motivated reasoning in humans exists because it is/was adaptive for negotiating with other humans". I do not think that story stands up well under examination; when I think of standard day-to-day examples of motivated reasoning, that pattern sounds like a plausible generator for...
Every time I see someone mention statistics on nonconsent kink online, someone else is surprised by how common it is. So let’s start with some statistics from Lehmiller[1]: roughly two thirds of women and half of men have some fantasy of being raped. A lot of these are more of...