We often talk about the world in two fundamental ways: through agency and causality. A rock falls because of gravity (causality). A dog wags its tail because it’s happy (agency). But what if these aren’t intrinsic properties of the universe, but rather powerful lenses we apply to make sense of...
The chickenpox virus waited for decades, attacking the moment my immune system wobbled.[1] It advanced down my nerves, spreading blisters along its path. Known as shingles, this kind of viral attack is generally considered a very bad time. The blisters make nerves go haywire. They start sending chaotic signals back...
Breathing patterns influence cognition. A guided 20-minute breathwork session can shift your mental state—calming anxiety, boosting energy, and helping you reorient when stuck on a problem.[1] This post shares a personal account of its effects, practical instructions, guided sessions, and key safety notes. I'm sitting in my room feeling calm,...
Meditation can be tricky. I’m by no means a skilled practitioner, but I did make a fair bit of progress with my focus meditation recently. This post is about the realization that helped me up my meditation game. Enjoy! When I meditate, I often spin away into reflections and judgments...
When you start practicing a shiny new communication method—like neatly sorting your observations from your judgments—you tend to pick up a few rules on how you “should” talk. You learn these rules from courses, books, or practicing with other rule-followers. Soon enough, you're helpfully pointing out when someone steps outside...
For a long time, I related to flirting as a challenge. At stake was my social worth — with the woman holding the power of social approval.1 My role was to perform my part, impress and showcase my best sides. Holding this view meant relinquishing my power. This way of...
I was sitting in a tiny rental lodge, feeling resistance. It was about dinner time — I knew I should go make some food. I just wanted to sleep, sink into a bed and stay passive. It felt similar to when I’m recently awake, lying in bed, and procrastinating getting...