I'm male, unfortunately.

Do you do any other activities requiring physical coordination, such as martial arts, sports, juggling, yoga, etc.?

No.

What kinds of music do you enjoy listening to? Do any make you tap your feet or fingers?

I enjoy many kinds of music, including pop music like Katy Perry and Carly Rae Jepsen.

Can you readily identify the beat in a piece of music?

Sometimes. If there is no obvious bass, or if the pattern is not simple, I have difficulties.

Can you tell if a note is higher or lower than the previous one?

Yes.

Do you find you learn better from directed instruction, or personal experimentation?

I don't know. I do learn most things by myself, but this does not mean that directed instruction would not be superior in some cases.

I want to be able to dance at weddings and parties, but I don't know how to break this down into a sequence of learnable subskills. To pick just one step that's not obvious to non-musical me: how do I tell what kind of dance fits the music that is playing? Do any of you have advice on how to quickly achieve a minimum viable level of competence?