Before I had a baby I was pretty agnostic about the idea of daycare. I could imagine various pros and cons but I didn’t have a strong overall opinion. Then I started mentioning the idea to various people. Every parent I spoke to brought up a consideration I hadn’t thought about before—the illnesses.

A number of parents, including family members, told me they had sent their baby to daycare only for them to become constantly ill, sometimes severely, until they decided to take them out. This worried me so I asked around some more. Invariably every single parent who had tried to send their babies or toddlers to daycare, or who had babies in daycare right now, told me that they were ill more often than not.

One mother strongly advised me never to send my baby to daycare. She regretted sending her (normal and healthy) first son to daycare when he was one—he ended up hospitalized with severe pneumonia after a few months of constant illnesses and infections. She told me that after that she didn’t send her other kids to daycare and they had much healthier childhoods.

I also started paying more attention to the kids I saw playing outside with their daycare group and noticing that every one had a sniffly nose.

I asked on a mothers group chat about people’s experiences with daycare. Again, the same. Some quotes:

“They do get sick a lot. I started my son at 2.5 and feel he always has something.”

“The limit does not exist.”

“brought home every plague (in first 6mo, Covid, HFM, slapcheek, RSV)”

“They usually say 8-12 illnesses per year. My girls were sick every 2-3 weeks in their first year of daycare”

“My daughter started daycare at 6 months and got sick a ton the first year”

Despite all this, many parents who have the option not to (i.e. they can afford in-home care with a nanny or for one parent to stay home) still choose to send their babies and toddlers to daycare. How come? Surely most well-off adults wouldn’t agree to be ill nonstop in exchange for the monetary savings daycare provides?

Asking around, it seemed like the most common reason given was that parents believed daycare illnesses “built immunity”; that if their babies and toddlers got sick at daycare they’d get less sick later in childhood and so overall it would net out the same. Unfortunately few could point me to any evidence for this but nevertheless passionately defended the view.

The claim that daycare i...

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