I grew up in a strictly Christian home. Both of my father's parents were very involved in the protestant church, my grandmother hosts weekly prayer nights and my grandfather is an administrator at seminary school. To be clear, they hold on to strong beliefs typically held by evangelical republicans, for example, no position for women in church, and a ban on same-sex marriage (two topics mentioned in the Bible that are controversial in the Christian community today).

I am a Christian myself, and I wouldn't call myself an extreme rationalist, however, their religious nagging has brought quite inefficient, unwanted and impractical tendencies and customs into my life. However, I did keep my mouth shut for most of my childhood out of respect, along with the rest of my family. My grandparents are incredibly loving and kind people, however, I could only imagine how tough it must have been for my rationalist father and his two siblings growing up.

You could imagine my family's surprise when my aunt (dad's sister) came out as a lesbian to our family.

That's about 30+ years in the closet. To others, it may seem bizarre, but knowing my grandparents, I probably wouldn't have the courage to come out at all. Shortly after she came out, by announcing the three year anniversary of her and her girlfriend, my grandparents let us all know how they felt: "struggling with the reality of their daughter's lifestyle."

Things in my family have been tense ever since. My family and I have met my aunt's girlfriend. She is quite terrified and timid around my grandparents (obviously) but they try to treat her with respect. If you saw her and my family in a living room, you couldn't tell that they are in a relationship. No PDA, not even hand-holding out of the fear that outcry may arise.

Around a week ago, my aunt announced that she proposed to her girlfriend (after her girlfriend set a personal record at the Boston Marathon!) and she said yes. It took my grandparents about an hour after to let us all know that they will not be attending the wedding because their beliefs don't match up with their daughter's life. My parents are outraged and shocked, and our family is falling apart. I don't know what to make of this situation, so I ask you all:

If you were in my grandparents' situation, would you attend your daughter&...

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