Definitely makes sense. A commonly cited example is women in an office workplace; what would be average assertiveness for a male is considered "bitchy", but they still suffer roughly the same "weak" penalties for non-assertiveness.
With the advice-giving aspect, some situations are likely coming fr...(read more)
Feel similarly; since Facebook comments are a matter of public record, disputes and complaints on them are fully public and can have high social costs if unaddressed. I would not be worried about it in a small group chat among close friends.
I perceive several different ways something like this happens to me:
1\. If I do something that strains my working memory, I'll have an experience of having a "cache miss". I'll reach for something, and it won't be there; I'll then attempt to pull it into memory again, but usually this is while try...(read more)
A note on this, which I definitely don't mean to apply to the specific situations you discuss (since I don't know enough about them):
If you give people stronger incentives to lie to you, more people will lie to you. If you give people strong enough incentives, even people who value truth highly wi...(read more)
I think you're looking for Thurston's "On proof and progress in mathematics": https://arxiv.org/abs/math/9404236
> I think [I may agree](https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/HXHCxhehvS9sWxQ8u/hufflepuff-cynicism-on-hypocrisy#9PxdcLJPdbY8Xgw8c) with the status version of the anti-hypocrisy flinch. It's the epistemic version I was really wanting to argue against.
Ok yeah, I think my concern was mostly with the statu...(read more)
I will see if I can catch a fresh one in the wild and share it. I recognize your last paragraph as something I've experienced before, though, and I endorse the attempt to not let that grow into righteous indignation and annoyance without justification -- with that as the archetype, I think that's in...(read more)
As you say, there are certainly negative things that hypocrisy can be a signal of, but you recommend that we should just consider those things independently. I think trying to do this sounds really really hard. If we were perfect reasoners this wouldn't be a problem; the anti-hypocrisy norm should i...(read more)
One hypothesis is that consciousness evolved for the purpose of deception -- Robin Hanson's "The Elephant in the Brain" is a decent read on this, although it does not address the Hard Problem of Consciousness.
If that's the case, we might circumvent its usefulness by having the right goals, or stro...(read more)
> Some reader might be thinking, "This is all nice and dandy, Quaerendo, but I cannot relate to the examples above... my cognition isn't distorted to that extent." Well, let me refer you to [UTexas CMHC](https://cmhc.utexas.edu/stressrecess/Level_One/cd.html):
> Maybe you are being realistic. Just ...(read more)