This was one of the first LessWrong posts I've made it all the way through, and I appreciated the journey you took your thoughts through. I like the underlying idea we can extend deeper social grace when we have a) common terms and b) ready mental models for why someone is "acting out" that doesn't beg some question to remove them. That hangry thoughts are ephemeral and easy to resolve lends to tolerance. I think that's what some commenters are latching onto when they describe this as more commonly-held: extending grace for extraneous personal circumstances is ingrained pretty deeply in some if not most cultures.
If 'hangry' is unique as a category because its new, its digestible and doesn't require much personal sacrifice on behalf of the person burdened with the choice of leniency, what other categories are there? Are we seeing a removal of them in real time? I think of groups like incels who bond over shared misery but are isolated from influencing norms because of distress behaviors that beg too much of others. I've seen some people joke about "being horny on main" as a way to jockey sympathy to the idea that desire is suppressed by fears of vulnerability, and I wonder if these concepts are related insofar as sympathy needs good social branding.
This was one of the first LessWrong posts I've made it all the way through, and I appreciated the journey you took your thoughts through. I like the underlying idea we can extend deeper social grace when we have a) common terms and b) ready mental models for why someone is "acting out" that doesn't beg some question to remove them. That hangry thoughts are ephemeral and easy to resolve lends to tolerance. I think that's what some commenters are latching onto when they describe this as more commonly-held: extending grace for extraneous personal circumstances is ingrained pretty deeply in some if not most cultures.
If 'hangry' is unique as a category because its new, its digestible and doesn't require much personal sacrifice on behalf of the person burdened with the choice of leniency, what other categories are there? Are we seeing a removal of them in real time? I think of groups like incels who bond over shared misery but are isolated from influencing norms because of distress behaviors that beg too much of others. I've seen some people joke about "being horny on main" as a way to jockey sympathy to the idea that desire is suppressed by fears of vulnerability, and I wonder if these concepts are related insofar as sympathy needs good social branding.