Random thought: maybe it makes sense to allow mostly-LLM-generated posts if the full prompt is provided (maybe itself in collapsible section). Not sure.
Obviously, there are situations when Alice couldn't just buy the same thing on her own. But besides that, plausible deniability:
- No one except Bob knows the exact money and attention costs of a gift and how exactly they compare with his gifts to other people.
- No one except Alice knows exactly how much she likes the gift, incuding when comparing with gifts from other people.
- Absolutely no one knows how both previous points compare between Bob's gift to Alice and Alice's gift to Bob.
- No one knows if Alice would buy the gift on her own of she had this idea, so no one can critique her for wasting money. Bob has a free pass, because it was a gift, he was altruistic.
Would you also approve other costly signals? Like, I dunno, cutting off a phalanx from a pinky when entering a relationship.
I think that "habitual defectors" are more likely to pretend to choose an option that is not disapproved by society.
But the comparison should be not with all families, but specifically with families who decided not to divorce because "think about the kids" and would have divorced otherwise.
I saw a sign that said "watch for children." I thought, that's not a fair trade, but I stood there for an hour anyway. No one showed up. I still don't have a watch.
Ok, this one got me. But all others didn't.
1Yes, sure! That comment was not very thoughtful.
OK, that's a misunderstanding.
By "in the same category" I basically meant "both are OK".
Like, "play boardgames with friends" is kinda obviously bad place for a relationship boundry (in general, by default, yes, we probably can invent some far-fetched scenario) and for me being poly is first of all that I and my partner treat "dating/being romantically involved/having sex with someone else" also as a bad place for a relationship boundry.
If I didn't want to play boardgames with anyone else, I would still think that forbidding my partner to play boardgames with anyone else is Not OK. And if I didn't want to date/be romantically involved/have sex with anyone else, I would still be poly.
And there are possible relationship boundaries around other partners that I think are OK, even some we don't practice. But they are kinda "positive" and not "negative" boundaries. Like, "you have to give me X", not "you have to not give X to anyone else". Does it make sense?
(Also, yes, I'm sure some people try to be poly when it doesn't actually work for them, but I think a lot more people try to be mono when it doesn't actually work for them. But that's offtopic.)
Hmmm... "Almost any genre ever" for Fate? (Ok, not the genres where main characters must be very incompetent.) I personally prefer systems with more narrow focus which support the tropes of the specific genre, but your statement is just false.
D&D is good for heroic fantasy and mixes of heroic fantasy with some other staff. D&D is bad for almost everything else. Of course, some modules try to do something else with D&D, but they usually would be better with some other system.