I just finished reading an incredible piece called “The Subtle Art of not giving the F*ck” by Mark Manson. If you need a self-help book, then what’s better than an anti-self-help book, you won’t ever need to find another one lol, and I can honestly say that this book does this job perfectly. I really enjoyed the part where Mark Manson criticizes those who seek happiness.” You will never be happy if you keep on searching for happiness. You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life” — Albert Camus. Let me say that people don’t understand. Eternal peace and happiness cannot be attained. Perhaps we can arrive at eternal peace after death, but for eternal happiness, we need a continued positive experience that we seek to keep ourselves happy is highly unlikely to happen, or in fact, it is a paradox. When the things we seek are easily delivered by nature, it loses most of their value which eventually leaves us unsatisfied or unhappy but if for the same thing we put in lots of struggle and hard work, we are definitely satisfied and probably the happiest but we can’t say the same to the struggle we have gone through and we also can’t tell until when we’re content with it because new things or achievements are easily normalized in our lives. So will you again put up a wavering struggle for happiness or would you hope for easy breakthroughs?

Recently I saw an interview between Mike Tyson and Sadhguru. Where Mike Tyson points out that even though he’s one of the toughest guys and successful still why and of what he is afraid of and to that Sadhguru responded that people are afraid of things that don’t even exist, and that’s where we are most vulnerable, and that struck me. We are not afraid of the things we have, but of the chances of having or losing them, something we look forward to accomplishing, but doubt whether we can or if we are accomplishing it, we would be more afraid of losing it. That’s the peculiarity of human emotions, we will never find peace in it but will always end up in an enigma.

The more knowledge and resources we have, the more vulnerable we become to fear and unhappiness. This is why our primordial ancestors are more likely to be less susceptible to these emotions than us. Also, some minorities who work hard every day just enough to provide food and shelter for themselves and their families are much happier than we are. Their lack of awareness and significant ignorance helps them realize their destiny, not the dreams or false wishes. Being able to feed themselves and their families is the happy ending they all wish for and until they can do so, they secure it daily. And that’s what we should learn and imply in our life too. We may keep on developing dreams or wishes on the path, but realizing and fulfilling our destiny should be our top priority. Maybe the journey becomes long and the struggle becomes harder, but the thing we seek is not happiness, but a happy ending is all we need. The journey is bound to have ups and downs but it’s upon us how we wish our endings and if we don’t get the right one, we will work harder for the next one because as soon as this journey ends, our next journey begins…

Also we can’t ignore the fear that is exploding as we acquire greater knowledge, breathtaking discoveries, and the development of artificial resources. If we never knew about ghosts and spirits would we ever fear them?, if we never colonized and built weapons, would we ever fear having another war?, if we never produced Gold and Diamonds, would we ever fear losing them? And if we ever become as tough and successful as Mike Tyson, wouldn’t we fear losing it all by losing some fights? Sometimes the answer is simple and straightforward but our mind is not amused by it, it doesn’t really care about the answer but it cares about how it’s being answered. No one likes to eat tasteless noodles, we all want spices and toppings to make them delicious, the same applies to our brain, it doesn’t like to incorporate simple answers if it’s not mixed with real or mystical facts.

We, humans, are the most complex machine on our planet, Since being a peak in Evolution, we are becoming more and more complex with every new piece of information fed to our brain, and this new information can alter or retweak our existing related information. Ever realized something suddenly that you should have realized long back? It’s because your brain was still refactoring and reprocessing the existing information. And since we are in continuous exposures to so many pieces of information, we are unsure of the information we should give fuck to, so as remarked by Mark Manson — “The key to a good life is not giving a fuck about more; it’s giving a fuck about less, giving a fuck about only what is true and immediate and important.”. Surely the less fuck we give about things, the more peaceful we are but do I really want to just give a fuck about the things which is important and beneficial to me? Or also to the things that may not be important or good for me but it’s just that I really want to?

TO BE CONTINUED