"It hurts when you have to stay away from what the heart desires."
- Unknown

Yet sometimes what the heart desires isn't what truly benefits you.
And while abstaining from what the heart wants, one suffers just as much as if one didn't stay away.
A dilemma where both premises lead to the same negative conclusion.

Is this really all the heart wants?
Sometimes, yes. But why?
Is there nothing else the heart could possibly desire instead?
Could one then substitute it?
Would one have to settle for something of lesser value?

Perhaps one simply hasn't yet discovered what the heart could want even more.
But how do you find what you don't know, if it's equally or even more fulfilling?

Or is the "problem" that one wants, or wants to want?
Is the "solution" to detach oneself from one's desires?
Detaching from all desires would more likely lead to a dead end.

If one desires nothing at all, would one then also fail to desire what is necessary for survival?
It should rather be about selective desiring.
Not wanting anything at all doesn't make sense.
Then only the second or higher level remains as a parameter:
deciding what one wants to want.

Thus, it wouldn't make sense to say, 'I don't want my heart to want.' More sensibly, one could say, 'I don't want my heart to want "the one thing" that it desires.'

But what does "the one thing" mean here?
Is a deductive approach really the solution for "the one thing"?
Deduction in the sense of liking/disliking?

Couldn't an inductive approach also be included? 
That is, 'I don't want my heart to want "the one thing" in this way that it desires.'
And here we approach a perspective that allows me to come to terms with it somewhat better.

Even the thought of wishing that the heart desired less makes the situation slightly more bearable.
Yet the problem isn't truly solved, if it can even work practically this way.
The problem remains, it still hurts what the heart wants.

But it has improved somewhat.
At least now it hurts a little less.
And does lowering the standards make it easier to find a substitute?