Hi, there's a post for this meetup already.
It's here: https://www.lesswrong.com/events/5TKo5CHZyWAuxauRi/everywhere-meetup
But I guess this one is more official.
Also, if you're going to put something somewhere that's not in its place, put it in a place that you'll HAVE to clean soon. I had a lot of success putting all my school-related stuff on my bed throughout the day in high school because I was guaranteed to pack it all up into my backpack because I had to use the bed to sleep.
That's interesting, because I think I usually refrain from vengeance by default, but I do try to like ... limit further interaction and stuff. Maybe that's similar.
The way I was thinking about it is that there's an internal feelings component -- like, do you still feel sad and hurt and angry? Then there's the updating on evidence component -- are they likely to do that or similar things again? And then there's also a behavioral piece, where you change something in the way you act towards/around them (and I'm not sure if vengeance or just running awaaay both count?) So I wasn't sure which combination of those were part of "forgiveness" in common usage. It sounds like you're saying internal + behavioral, right?
Does anyone have a working definition of "forgiveness"? Given that definition, do you find it to be a useful thing to do?
Oh okay, then yours is definitely superior. Good thing it's mine now.