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What have your romantic experiences with non-EAs/non-Rationalists been like?

Two months ago, on another first date my match spent 90 minutes trying to solve a simple logical riddle, then gave up and left. I didn't hear from her again.

what was the riddle?

What have your romantic experiences with non-EAs/non-Rationalists been like?

Oh, yeah, both my mom, sister and GF have been entirely uninterested in cryo, but it hasn't caused any issues for me yet. Has it been actively problematic?

What have your romantic experiences with non-EAs/non-Rationalists been like?

I've been dating my current GF for ~five years now. I think something that's allowed the relationship to work well from my end was doing certain stoic/meditative moves. At a certain point in my meditation practice, after reading Mastering the Core Teachings of the Buddha, I decided that "unsatisfactoriness" might be the voice in the back of my mind that is always finding something to complain about. Maybe it's just correlated with getting older and gradually settling hormone levels, but having that handle on that mental process really helped stabilize my equanimity in the relationship, with my GF who is higher-conscientiousness/lower-openness than I am.

However, in recent months, I've started to wonder if I've underestimated how important openness is for me in a partner; some part of me has started to experience the reflexive 'no' that often comes with lower-openness as a form of attack. It's something my GF and I are working on, and she's aware of the way some of my processing of the relationship has changed, but it's giving me a lot of pause lately.

W/r/t my GF not having a rationalist frame: in reflective moments, this can be unsettling for my self-conception as someone who is a good, clear communicator. Man, if I can't move the needle with one person, in five years, what the f...?

AI Safety Needs Great Engineers

To be clear, I don't know if I'll be accepted to AISC either, but I'm assuming I likely will.

AI Safety Needs Great Engineers

I'm applying to AI Safety Camp and expect to be pegged to ~100% utilization by my job+AISC+life for the duration, but I'm very interested in this; post AISC I'd absolutely be up for doing organizing work on this.

AI Safety Needs Great Engineers

They've said that they originally planned for 20 slots and expanded to 30, Buck wrote in my rejection letter that "We had many more applicants than I expected".

The Meta-Puzzle

"All god fearing people are single and all satanists are married"?

AI Safety Needs Great Engineers

As a self-taught programmer who's dabbled in ML, but has only done front and back-end web work for the last eight years: it's been pretty frustrating trying to find a way to work on ML or AI safety the last four years. I think some of the very recent developments like RR's ML boot camp are promising on this front, but I'm pretty surprised that Redwood was surprised they would get 500 applications. We've been telling people explicitly "this is an emergency" for years now, but tacitly "but you can't do anything about it unless you're a 99th percentile programmer and also positioned in the right place at the right time to apply and live in the bay area." Or, that's how it's felt to me.

How do I keep myself/S1 honest?

In high pressure situation it seems to me like S1 gets active whether or not one gives it authority.

I actually think it's much worse than this. I'd guess at least 90% (maybe much higher) motor control is directly or heavily mediated by S1. Speech is a motor act. Given the limited bandwidth of consciousness/S2, it's just not tractable to have S2 in the loop much.

As I said in the OP, after doing enough meditation, I was able to observe this in myself, in realtime occasionally: sometime I can sit back and just watch myself talk without really feeling like "I" am in the loop. I'm actually doing a similar move right now, watching myself write this text -- some part of me is at a distance, dispassionate, aware, but not "executing" much of anything.

How do I keep myself/S1 honest?

It's nice to know I'm not the only one who foot-mouths like this. I agree that a certain kind of global-integrity of character makes it much easier to just not find oneself in this situation. I'd like to think I S1 lie much much less frequently than I used to.

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