What do you expect to learn over the next few decades of your life that you don't understand well now?
Since I've reached my 50's, I've come around to seeing how acquiring an adult man's skill set (AMSS) at a developmentally appropriate (late teens/early 20's in other words) has applications beyond getting into sexual relationships through dating. (And you probably wonder why I read PUA blogs and websites.) Namely, that the AMSS doesn't exist in isolation, but it plays a role in projecting male presence and authority when you have to deal with women in other social situations, like the work place. Women tend to respect the sexually confident man more than the sexually in- or under-experienced man.
I'd like to tell younger men who have had problems with acquiring the AMSS that they need to think about these other consequences of its absence when they reach middle age. In a rational society (lots of luck getting that, despite what you LessWrong people fantasize about), parents wouldn't leave their boys' development of the AMSS to the haphazard. When they can see that girls don't find their sons sexually attractive in their given state, the boys need some kind of intervention to correct that right away.
In my case, I was stuffed full of religious teachings that seem as if they were deliberately designed to make men unattractive. Ambition, money, and sexuality were literally demonized. I never saw my father kiss my mother without her turning away in disgust. I was discouraged from dating, from pride, from profitable careers, and in general from any actions that might lead to even moderate fame, fortune, or power.
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