Something I struggle with (probably largely due to ADHD) is building habits/patterns of being aware of things I want to notice/practice cognitively.
For example, I find myself easily becoming somewhat thoughtless in social situations, in that I do not stop to observe, think, and measure my actions and responses at all. I have, for a couple years now, been intending to work on this, and not really doing anything to act on this intention. I often plan to step back and just observe in social situations, but never do.
Since I struggle with this, I figure that the best thing I can do now is try and pick up some strategies for both reminding myself to think back to cognitive patterns I want to build when I enter into the relevant situation, and for doing said things.
So, does anyone have suggestions on how one can:
- More consistently remember something they want to watch out for in various situations (especially social/fast-paced situations)
- Build new mental patterns/habits (in general)
- Effectively observe social situations as they occur, in person, to learn from the interactions in order to develop social skills (bonus if the strategy allows for one to not appear/be awkward or violate social etiquette)
- Somewhat less relevantly, banish aversions to human connection/intimacies that make things like eye contact difficult/overwhelming (the aversion is mostly habitual at this point)