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I think most people have short term, medium term, and long term goals. E.g., right about now many people probably have the goal of doing their taxes, and depending on their situation those may match many of your desiderata.

I used to put a lot of effort into creating exercises, simulations, and scenarios that matched up with various skills I was teaching, but ultimately found it much more effective to just say "look at your todo list, and find something that causes overwhelm". Deliberate practice consists of finding a thing that causes overwhelm, seeing how to overcome that overwhelm, working for two minutes, then finding another task that induces overwhelm. I also use past examples, imagining in detail what it would have been like to act in this different way

You're operating in a slightly different domain, but still I imagine people have plenty of problems and sub problems in either their life or research where the things you're teaching applies, and you can scope them small enough to get tighter feedback loops.

Why not just have people spend some time working with their existing goals?

I usually explain my process these days to clients with the acronym LIFE

Learn New Tools Integrate Resistance Forge an Identity Express Yourself

Learn New Tools is cognitive-emotional strategies, of which TYCS is an example. Fwiw a some of TYCS is actually deliberate practice to discover cognitive strategies ( as compared to something like CFAR which extracts and teaches them directly), but the result is the same.

The important thing is to just have a clear tool, give people something they know they can use in certain situations, that works immediately to solve their problems.

But the thing is, people don't use them, because they have resistance. That's where parts work and other resistance integration tools come into play.

Even when thata done, there's still the issue that you don't automatically use the techniques. This is where forge an Identity comes in, where you use identity change techniques to make the way you see yourself be in alignment with a way of being that the technique brings out. (This is one thing TYCS gets wrong in my opinion, trying to directly reinforce the cognitive strategies instead of creating an identity and reinforcing the strategies as affirming that identity.)

Finally that identity needs to propogate to every area of your life, so there's not situations where you fail to use the technique and way of being. This is just a process of looking at each area, seeing where it's not in alignment with the identity, then deliberately taking an action to bring it to that area.

IME all of these pieces are needed to make a life change from a technique, although it's rarely as linear as I describe it.

The way I do this with my clients is that we train cognitive tools first, then find the resistance to those habits and work on it using parts work

I can hover over quick takes to get the full comment, but not popular comments.

Why not show the top-rated review, like you do at the top of the page?

The art change is pretty distracting, and having to hover to see the author is also a bummer, plus no way to get a summary (that I can see).

It's seemingly optimized for a "judge a book by it's cover" type of thing where I click around until I see a title and image I like

Appreciated this writeup.

How long have you been using the tool, and do you find any resistance to using it?

Do you always assume the underlying issue, or do you do focusing each time? Or do you find a contradictory experience through intuition without knowing why it works?

I haven't looked into this recently, but last time I looked at the literature behavioral interviews were far more predictive of job performance than other interviewing methods.

It's possible that they've become less predictive as people started preparing for them more.

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