When people compliment you on highly salient attributes, you should be skeptical.
If you have a very prominent tattoo or a funky rainbow-colored jacket, people will frequently give you compliments about it, whether or not it is actually good. When there is a highly conspicuous thing, people cannot resist commenting on it. But the only polite way to mention something about someone's appearance is to give a compliment. So people who make terrible fashion choices are frequently reinforced in their belief that everyone around them thinks they look great.
Similarly, if you give a public speech in front of a large audience or perform a song at a concert, everyone will compliment your performance, even if it was bad, because they can't bring themselves not to mention the most salient fact about you at that moment, and a compliment is the only socially acceptable way to do that.
I think people do this, but there’s a risk to assuming this motivation. It’s taking a statement that’s positive on its face, and then coming up with a scenario via mind reading that it’s actually bad for you. Sort of reverse CBT that could make you more anxious or paranoid over time since you are finding a way to reframe even positive comments as bad. Then you are potentially disappointed whether people compliment or insult you.
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I would counter the idea that people are simply being polite when expressing compliments with the argument that what you are likely seeing instead is simply a kind of selection bias.
9x% of the population might think that you look ridiculous, but the single digit percentage that you appeal to could be both honest and vocal. In my experience, tattoos _in general_ are a great example of this where the “masses” will just not comment at all but tattoo fans are loud.
Or there’s the opposite - perhaps in a general “poll the world” sense people would think that you look pretty good, but when you wear X in a Y area, the Y’s don’t tend to like it.
Yeah, it could be that 99% people hate it but remain silent, and 1% really like it and say it out loud. You think you are popular in general, while in reality you are just optimizing for the tastes of 1%, and getting more and more silent disapproval of the 99%. Even worse, the reason why the 1% like it may be different than you think; for example you think "this is nice", but for them it is an arbitrary ingroup symbol, so you are ultimately wrong about everyone.