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personality( ground_truth ) --> stated_truth
Or, what someone says is a subset of what they're really thinking, transformed by their personality.
(personality plus intentions, context, emotions, etc.)
(You can tell I'm not a mathematician because I didn't express this in latex xD but I feel like there's a very elegant Linear Algebra description where, ground truth is a high dimensional object, personality transforms to make it low-dimensional enough to communicate, and changes its "angle" (?) / vibe so it fits their goals better)
So, if you know someone's personality, meaning, what kind of way they reshape a given ground truth, you can infer things about the ground truth.
I feel like everyone does this implicitly, it's one of those social skills I struggle with. I always thought it was a flaw of other people, to not simply take things at face value, but to think at the level of "why do they say this", "this is just because they want <x>", while I'm always thinking about "no but what did they literally say? is it true or not?".
It's frustrating because usually, the underlying social/personality context completely dominates what someone says, like, 95% of the time it literally doesn't fucking matter one bit what someone is saying at the object level. And maybe, the fact that humans have evolved to think in this way, is evidence that in fact, 95% of what people say doesn't matter and shouldn't matter object-level, that the only thing that matters is implications about underlying personality and intentions.
My recollection of sitting through "adult conversations" of family and relative visits for probably many hundreds of hours is, "I remember almost zero things that anybody has ever talked about". I guess the point is that they're talking, not what it's about.
This reframing makes it easier to handle social situations. I can ask myself questions like, "what is the point of this social interaction?", "why is this person saying this to me?"
Often the answer is, "they just wanna vibe, and this is an excuse to do so".