Thanks for engaging with me on this thing. :)

I know I'm not being as clear as I could possibly be, and at some points I sort of feel like just throwing "Quining Qualia" or Keith Frankish's articles or a whole bunch of other blog posts at people and say, "Please just read this and re-read it until you have a very distinct intuition about what I am saying." But I know that that type of debate is not helpful.

I think I have a OK-to-good understanding of what you are saying. My model of your reply is something like this,

"Your claim is that qualia don't exist because nothing with these three properties exists (ineffability/private/intrinsic), but it's not clear to me that these three properties are universally identified with qualia. When I go to Wikipedia or other sources, they usually identify qualia with 'what it's like' rather than these three very specific things that Daniel Dennett happened to list once. So, I still think that I am pointing to something real when I talk about 'what it's like' and you are only disputing a perhaps-strawman version of qualia."

Please correct me if this model of you is inaccurate.

I recognize what you are saying, and I agree with the place you are coming from. I really do. And furthermore, I really really agree with the idea that we should go further than skepticism and we should always ask more questions even after we have concluded that something doesn't exist.

However, the place I get off the boat is where you keep talking about how this 'what it's like' thing is actually referring to something coherent in the real world that has a crisp, natural boundary around it. That's the disagreement.

I don't think it's an accident of history either that those properties are identified with qualia. The whole reason Daniel Dennett identified them was because he showed that they were the necessary conclusion of the sort of thought experiments people use for qualia. He spends the whole first several paragraphs justifying them using various intuition pumps in his essay on the matter.

Point being, when you are asked to clarify what 'what it's like' means, you'll probably start pointing to examples. Like, you might say, "Well, I know what it's like to see the color green, so that's an example of a quale." And Daniel Dennett would then press the person further and go, "OK could you clarify what you mean when you say you 'know what it's like to see green'?" and the person would say, "No, I can't describe it using words. And it's not clear to me it's even in the same category of things that can be either, since I can't possibly conceive of an English sentence that would describe the color green to a blind person." And then Daniel Dennett would shout, "Aha! So you do believe in ineffability!"

The point of those three properties (actually he lists 4, I think), is not that they are inherently tied to the definition. It's that the definition is vague, and every time people are pressed to be more clear on what they mean, they start spouting nonsense. Dennett did valid and good deconfusion work where he showed that people go wrong in these four places, and then showed how there's no physical thing that could possibly allow those four things.

These properties also show up all over the various thought experiments that people use when talking about qualia. For example, Nagel uses the private property in his essay "What Is it Like to Be a Bat?" Chalmers uses the intrinsic property when he talks about p-zombies being physically identical to humans in every respect except for qualia. Frank Jackson used the ineffability property when he talked about how Mary the neuroscientist had something missing when she was in the black and white room.

All of this is important to recognize. Because if you still want to say, "But I'm still pointing to something valid and real even if you want to reject this other strawman-entity" then I'm going to treat you like the person who wants to believe in souls even after they've been shown that nothing soul-like exists in this universe.