My shortest form is the known unknown: what hurdle of unacknowledged individual shortcoming prevents my being in accord with others? (This ingroup)
I believe it is the missing, in-person declaration of mutuality, combined with declarations of the value of each person - to have in person communion with those estranged by supposed ideological differences, that would be unimaginably useful.
Yet I assume my "alignment" is the problem. Or some character assessment which, perhaps only partially informed, drives intentional exclusion.
Either way, it would be tremendous to discover a change in parameters benefiting the widest number of persons, yet including myself and others.