Only if forced.
It feels like the same kind of reason that you need to be gentle with your body after running a marathon. I could try to be more specific about what might be going on that makes it difficult to keep it up, but the point is that it seems to be a fundamentally difficult to remain unfatigued and if you...(read more)
Question for discussion: How would you suggest we use the idea of defense mechanisms in theory or practice?
It's definitely important to keep from messing up big, but I think it's often underestimated how much value there is to be had in noticing and changing defensive responses when you aren't str...(read more)
Sometimes people are just dumb, and repeatedly do things that don't seem to accomplish anything because they don't know how to do anything better (because they don't understand why they're doing it in the first place). In other words, yes, there has to be a reason for them doing it, no, it shouldn't...(read more)
Back when I was first getting into hypnosis, we talked about my experiments with hypnosis and all the terrifying possibilities that they implied. Even though I'd expect you'd have taken basically the same stance even without those conversations, I imagine it is still a significant contributing facto...(read more)
You're doing a little slight of hand by throwing all "avoiding pain" in one large bucket (and then deciding that you want to keep some of it), but then instead of analyzing "avoiding fear" as applied to one specific threat (and then deciding that it's "irrational"). You could just as easily say "no,...(read more)
The way we test our heuristics is by seeing if they point to the correct conclusions or not, and the way that we verify whether or not the conclusion is correct is with evidence. A single example is only a single example, of course, but I don't see how the failure mode can be illustrated any more cl...(read more)
"How easy would it be to make a childrens movie" is not a good heuristic. Think of how easy it would be to make a movie to scare children away from getting their shots compared to a movie that gets them comfortable with doctors stabbing them with needles.
Yes, in general people sticking sharp things...(read more)
It's also possible to take the gradual approach even if you only have one opportunity to give them feedback, though it is a little outside the bounds of how people normally interact and takes a bit of skill.
Basically, instead of "I need you to have already demonstrated [...] so I can't give you fee...(read more)
I think there's something to that, but it's not that general. For example, some people can be very kind to others but harsh with themselves. Some people can be cruel to others but lenient to themselves.
Even if the behavior itself seems vastly different, that doesn't necessarily mean they aren't jus...(read more)