I also despair at seeing so many people being wasted. Many worry about cans and recycling, but they don't seem to realize how rare a person is to the universe and how expensive they are.

Mainly, due to my time working with therapy in prisons, I find it very difficult to direct a (very complex) person toward something useful. What I could do is encourage them to look for ways to be useful.

The first thing I see as the kindest thing to do would be something like asking: "Are you absolutely sure it's impossible to contribute in a more positive way?"

Then ask them if they wouldn't like to seek something better for everyone, along with me... but the chances of that seem very slim, even though I'm very involved, actually helping to have a stable minimum would be unlikely. Although it's the best I have.

I've included a link to my work with therapeutic humor in prisons below, if you'd like more details.

https://www.lesswrong.com/posts/K9jFm9P5o258LDDW8/da-prisão-com-humor-terapêutico-ao-raciocínio-difícil

First thanks! Your empathy makes me vibrate! if it was devastating, mainly for the reasons that tube que dejar todo.

NOoo! I'm in agreement, my goal, it wouldn't be to have the prestige at the same time, but at least manage to have a minimum stable income of say 800 dollars, which I've been waiting for for 13 years. I don't have so much trouble taking care of gardens, walking dogs or working in prison. that are the things that im  working now. But I didn't see enough stability to be able to have a peaceful child or family.

I understand that "that's a lie" works for you, and especially "first be kind." I feel an enormous sweetness in your words and responses. And I read the description of the scene with your son, very tender! Like a loving sitcom, "Modern Family."
However, personally, if I tell myself that, it's already another burden I have: "I'm a liar." So I prefer to ask myself something more gentle, like: "Are you 100% sure you'll do this later? Is it worth the risk of not doing it?"

Wow! I was thrilled with the answer! Good definitions help me understand better. Even if they don't have much in common, right? Fear or belief, they both have a hypothesis that I believe in to act, or not? From what you say, I see that the main difference is each person's level of urgency. Could that be it?

Yes, I still find myself losing action because of this fear of being in the shit. That I have almost no chance of getting the salary I used to have or the prestige. In that sense, I would be in the shit. But then I ask myself the question: "Are you 100% sure that you're completely in the shit and have nothing worthwhile?" In other words, the tiger exists, but it would still be possible to do something. And then there's the opening to question more about what to do and see how in the shit I really am. Or am I talking nonsense?

For me, this is the best question that helps me not to be paralyzed by fear and to gain the openness to question myself and value other things in the shit. and for you?

Highly regarded, Sérgio,
"suicidal from imortal", perhaps I failed, but my intention was not to alarm people, with a touch of humor. Thank you for that tip. I'll leave the precise version as well as the poetic one. It would be that I went from having an average of 13 thoughts of self-destruction per day to an average of 2 per month.

Yes! I have everything tied to my body with strings so I don't lose anything, like keys, my phone, and even my glasses are tied to my ears. "Later is a lie" is a bit harsh, isn't it? Doesn't it drain your energy to accuse yourself like that? Haha. Don't you see a more considerate alternative?

Hi Jimmi,
Can you offer me a definition: fear vs. belief? Yes?
And the line between the two is that fear can change, right?

The bridge between the two is recognizing what type of statement we're dealing with: belief vs. fear. That distinction decides whether we're victims of an internal dogma or explorers of our own mental world.
Yes, that was perhaps what I wanted to say: what more powerful question do I have that reveals to me what's a fear and not a belief?