Bay Area: vibes


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KatjaGrace

Paul Graham says that cities send subtle messages about what your ambitions should be—different ones tell you to be richer, or be smarter, or to live better. I have lately been feeling like the same is true of people, and groups of people, and TV shows, and songs, and workplaces, and Twitter, and places you sit down to get a quick drink.

Obviously people (and all these other things) explicitly tell you to do different things sometimes. But I think there are subtler suggestions, both about what is valuable, and about what the world is like.

Some examples, mostly from people I know, anonymized:

  • Alice says to be more careful with your minutes. Also maybe your seconds
  • Bob says to find things to laugh about
  • Celia says to find flaws to smirk about
  • Doris says to have more novel insights
  • Erica says to feel more, and better
  • Francis tells you that just your being there is amazing, but that doing something would also be a fittingly wonderful manifestation of that
  • Gerald says to be more reasonable
  • Harriet says that everything is fundamentally ok
  • Ira says to know more stories
  • Jared says to know more facts

I had thought in the abstract that people around influence a person, but lately I more viscerally anticipate it, and shy away from some of the influences.

It’s dinner time, so I won’t elaborate further. Does this fit your experience?