Here is a template (feel free to use) that you might find useful as an introductory message if you find it hard to consider how your actions make other people feel:

Do you subscribe to Crooker's rules? Did you notice that Eliezer sometimes seems inconsiderate of people's emotions, when he just shoots down one (bad) alignment idea after the other? He just says things like "No, this does not work." My guess is that there are some algorithms missing from his brain or are atrophied, just like for me. For me, it's pretty hard to take into account how other people will feel when I say something. It's just not something that comes naturally and I need to be very explicitly thinking about this in order to make what I say not come across as offensive.

Basically, I think it would be good if you model me as a person who is missing the hardware in his brain which is automatically inferring how I will make people feel with my actions. I need to repurpose some other machinery for this, which takes a lot more effort and is slower. Often people call this autism, but I think my description is more precise and useful for telling other people what is going on, such that they understand.

And it seems very clear that there is a big gap. For example, Buck once said that he does not like to shoot down the ideas of other people because he does not want them to feel bad. At that moment I realized that I could not remember that this thought ever occurred to me. It seemed very alien, but also obviously good. Of course, I don't want to make people feel bad. But even the possibility of this happening was, I noticed, missing from my world model.

It would make things easier for me if I could not worry about this too much. If you subscribe to Crooker's rules then I could optimize my messages only for content. For example, if you subscribe to Crooker's rules then I could just not optimize my messages at all for sounding nice.

If you find that my mode of communication causes you emotional trouble, we could always revert back to me optimizing more for not sounding harsh.

Some harsh things I might do are:

• I write a thousands-of-word document describing how you're wrong on a particular topic, which makes it seem like I'm really critical of what you do and don't think it's good at all, when in fact I mean something more like, look here are some issues I think I discovered and I'm not even thinking about the implicit message that I send by sending a long document that just contains criticism.
• I use phrases like <No/wrong...[Explanation]/This doesn't make sense/This doesn't work>