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How was your decade?

by namespace1 min read28th Dec 20198 comments

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Hi everybody,

With the New Year coming up and next year being 2020, I think it's worth reflecting on the last 10 years. As you probably remember the last Sequences post came out towards the end of the decade. How have things gone for you since then? If you're willing to share, here's some things to consider. You can answer as much or as little of this as you want, don't let it scare you off from posting:

(EDIT: This prompt seems to reliably cause people to write stuff that's uncomfortable to post as a comment. If you find this happens to you, go ahead and just excerpt a part which is comfortable to post as a comment and post that instead.)

Before & After

How were things for you at the start and end of the decade? Some categories to ponder:

  • Philosophy
  • Skills
  • Career
  • Lifestyle

Between

How did things change over time? What was your progression through the 2010's?

  • What made you say "oops" and "duh"? What did you update on?
  • How have your preferences changed over time? (e.g. Music, Food)
  • Did you break any promises? Did you keep some difficult ones?
  • Do you have any new habits? Did you break some?

Experiences

How did you experience the last 10 years? What proportion of the time was spent on good experiences vs. bad? Any notable highlights?

Worth Noting

  • When did you first read The Sequences, if ever?
  • Are you overall satisfied or dissatisfied with how the decade went?
  • Is there any advice you'd give to your past self? How do you think they'd react to it? (Just so we don't have to read it 30 times, yes, you would buy bitcoin)
  • What do you think the zeitgeist of this decade was? What aspects and events do you think you'll remember the 2010's for? What do you think society at large will remember the 2010's for?

And of course if there's anything else you'd like to share, feel free. :)

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I've been thinking about this a lot lately. 2019 has been a year of many changes for me, but mostly by way of consolidting everything I've been learning to reshape my own mind. From the outside it would look like the rest of the decade, 2009-2018, was way more eventful. Starting in 2009 I graduated college, got a job, went to grad school, quit grad school, got a dog and a cat, bought a house, got married, got into hiking and yoga and meditation, and read the Sequences and lots of other things.

As for advice - I would try to convey the importance of self-acceptance and self-compassion, and the fact that it's really, really unhealthy mentally to believe that a virtuous person cannot value his own life and well-being above that of anyone else, at least if that person is human and living on Earth in the current time. I would provide a long reading recommendation list, though honestly I don't know if any of what I said could efficiently bridge the inferential gap between me and him.

How was my decade?

First 6 years - painful and miserable spent in a state of hopelessness and self-loathing. A deep depression with suicide was a constantly considered option. I wanted it all to stop.

I gave up my career as a veterinary surgeon, which was all I'd ever wanted to be since I was 6 but I hated it more and more through the years. The wins were just me doing my job so I got no joy/satisfaction/anything positive in those. The losses always hit hard, the fear and doubt - could I have done more/did I miss something/what if I'd done something different? The losses always outnumbered the wins in the end.

Now, that I've learned to use my body correctly - to use the right muscles, to physically balance my body and work towards dynamic alignment and a full range of natural movement - it's a whole new world for me.

So past advice to myself - Learn to use your body better - starting with your Base-Line muscles (pelvic floor Base, rectus abdominis Line) the key to connecting body and mind. Would I have listened? I hope so because the anatomy is solid and should be able to stand up to scrutiny if I can get anyone else to consider it.

Well that was quite cathartic!

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