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There is also an efficiency component to the energy expenditure of making social bids. Not only it can take someone more energy to make the same (perceived) bid, but the same bid can have different effects based on social skillfullness and a bunch of other things. This can be seen as a parameter in the dynamic equilibrium that can produce the feedback loop you mention.