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When asking for feedback, it might be beneficial to clarify your goals

Build a habit of escaping overwhelmed-mode fast

Based on introspection

1. externalizing my thoughts  

2. ask: what is the goal? alternatively, what is the vision? What do I want?

3. seeing exciting combinations of possible decisions, then breaking then down into individual decisions (alternate between steps 2 and 3 which can reciprocally gain more clarity)

4. perform pairwise comparison using realistic best cases and average cases, including goal progress

Are exceptional people narcissistic? Probably a little bit. You do need a certain amount of ego to do things at all. 

Be aware of how your social graph shapes you.

Me: I pivoted to a new idea

Friend: "pivoted" 😭 

Use human words like "seemed futile" or "not interested anymore"

I think I see the problem

You are being raised by sf techbros who hold you to masculine standards

This might be how new cognitive techniques become fixed in culture, through features relevant to them getting attached to words, and the words becoming popular.

your friend sure could have made that point in a better way, yeah! I think I agree with it at least a little, though - like, I'd strip away almost all of it and decrease the intensity by about 6x, make it a proposal rather than a highly emotivized demand. but I think the de-intensified version of what your friend is saying makes a similar point to the one you're making. in fact, maybe consider going back and telling them that the intensity of phrasing made it harder for you to ponder it and decide whether to accept it? you can give backpressure to real friends, after all.

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