Here is a an abstraction of a type of disagreement:
Claim: it is common for one to be more concerned with questions like, "How should I respond to XYZ system?" over "How should I create an accurate model of XYZ system?"
Let's say the system / environment is social interactions.
Liti: Why are you supposed to give someone a strong handshake when you meet them?
Hale: You need to give a strong handshake
Here Hale misunderstands Liti as asking for information about the proper procedure to perform. Really, Liti wants to know how this system came to be, why do we shake hands in the first place, and why people use it as a proxy for getting the gist of you.
For Hale, it can be frustrating when Liti keeps asking questions, because they've explained everything that seems important and necessary to function in a handshake-scenario.
For Liti this can be frustrating because Hale isn't answering their question, and they feel like they aren't being heard.
In light of reading through Raemon's shortform feed, I'm making my own. Here will be smaller ideas that are on my mind.