I like this article. Sorry you ran into such a scary situation!
This may seem like a tenuous connection, but my fiancé and I are planning our wedding, and this article made me think about how we’re approaching that process. We both worked on inventorying the details and risks we needed to quiz venues about - surprise upcharges, ADA accessibility, the level of service, whether they had vendors experienced with their venue and willing to continue working there.
It didn’t take too long to master a pretty comprehensive list of questions, and of course we can write it down too. This lets us pretty efficiently vet places both by email/phone and in person. I’m by no means a naturally suspicious person, but I find that applying that scrutiny comes easily when I prepare the checklist of questions to ask in advance.
Probably the same approach can be applied to other big decisions, including renting or buying a home, choosing a romantic partner, picking a career, school or employer. I find approaching these questions systematically makes me feel more relaxed and in control and interested in the process. AI is very helpful for brainstorming the questions to ask.
So just a generally more structured and systematic approach to decision making seems good. Or for decisions you’ve already made (ie the house you’re already in), making a habit of a periodic, maybe annual, inspection or inventory. Seems like a very healthy habit to get into.
As always, the issue is figuring out where to pour time and attention to make the right decisions, and where to coast off heuristics. I can't get into the habit of reevaluating all things every year about every topic, and my failure was more in not realizing that the topic of the safety of my house was a topic to think about.
How do you decide when to use a structured and systematic approach when making a decision?
By experiment, I guess? I don't have a well worked out philosophy on this specific issue. But in general, I think that when you have a plausible idea like this, it's good to just budget some time for a few tests to learn how onerous it is (or isn't), and see if it catches anything that make it seem worthwhile. You'll probably figure out intuitively when the amount of inventorying and investigation is starting to seem excessive. And probably the level you should be at is not zero. So then it's just about figuring out the highest priority areas and working your way down the list gradually over time.
I'll bet you could figure out a solid plan (especially now with AI) for inventorying potential safety issues in your house in an afternoon and execute in a few hours, especially with housemates to help.
I'm kind of surprised that you had two different people without basic background knowledge of how gas heaters work (i.e. that exhaust goes out the exhaust pipe, and exhaust can be poisonous). Maybe you could all benefit from reading The Way Things Work by David Macaulay.
I'll answer this for fear that you leave with the wrong conclusion.
I am one of the two people who disregarded the partially open exhaust pipe. I have a french engineering school education and am competent at levels quite far beyond what The Way Things Work might cover, ie. I can formally and correctly model the whole system including chemistry (with one important caveat, I didn't know top of my head that multiple-burning cycles with air reuse will lead to CO, and if that's covered in The Way Things Work than I would have benefited), installation, material wear, safety engineering and process design.
I think a more appropriate conclusion is that knowledge and ability to model the world doesn't automatically translate to using these skills. Saliency matters, and the house being rickety made shoddy things seem normal, not worth doing anything about. I was going by to reset the heater, a routine every few days activity, one can imagine I had other things in mind. I noticed that the air smelt bad and the pipe was angled and not sealed, maybe emotionally I had as strong a reaction as "Huh, was that pipe always like that?" before continuing with my day.
The one liner I would impart: "Some things, including heaters, are dangerous when improperly maintained, so practice feeling it as important and dangerous when you notice something off about it". Proper actions follow from proper emotional reactions.
Taking reasonable choices is not enough. You need to fight death at every possible point of intervention.
Two weeks ago, my flatmates and I published Basics of How Not to Die, to celebrate the one-year anniversary of not dying from carbon monoxide poisoning.
This post was written with a rather cheeky tone, mainly by my flatmate Camille. I like the style, but I feel like it lacks hard data, and gives advice that may not actually be worth the cost.
In this post, I’ll give you a more detailed look at the entire causal chain that led us to this accident, how each action or non-action felt reasonable at the moment, and what I guess we could have done differently at each point to get a better outcome.
I hope that by looking at them, you’ll recognize some of the same patterns in your own life, and maybe realize some ways you would predictably make mistakes that would put you in danger.
Remember the signs of carbon monoxide poisoning
The causal chain
So, here’s the causal chain that led to this accident happening, and my take on what we could have done differently at each step to avoid this outcome:
Here are the cost we incurred because of this accident:
So, some cost, but it could have been much worse. If we had not been in the same room this morning, there was some risk we might have taken until the evening to notice, and there was some low risk someone would have fallen unconcious in their room and died in the meantime.
I could not feel safe anymore
The words update was feeling like I was much less safe than before. It was weak, just a bit more of anxiety, of worry, especially when inside our house, but it did decrease my quality of life. I had been suprised by the accident, and higher anxiety was a way to be readier for a world where the rate of surprise encounters with death was higher than I expected before.
The way out was to process the issue, to figure out what I had done wrong, so I could reliably avoid this class of issue in the future. I did an early version of this postmortem, through conversations and notes, until I trusted that my future would not involve more near death encounters than I expected before the accident.
I think my other flatmates also went through this process in their own way. Camille through writing the bulk of Basics of How Not to Die, Elisa through writing her testament.
My updates
Looking back over all the causal chain, here’s the generalized actions I think me and my flatmates could have taken to avoid this outcome.
I’m not sure which ones I would have actually taken. All of them come with tradeoffs, costs in time and money that might not be worth the risk reduction.
At least, I’ll keep them on my mind. Maybe they’ll help me notice, next time I’m taking reasonable choices that bring me ever closer to an accident.