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more importantly, both i and the other person get more out of the conversation. almost always, there are subtle misunderstandings and the rest of the conversation would otherwise involve a lot of talking past each other. you can only really make progress when you're actually engaging with the other person's true beliefs, rather than a misunderstanding of their beliefs.