Even now and then I meet someone who tries to argue that if I don't agree with them this is because I'm not open mided enough. Is there a term for this?
Epistemically I'm not convinced buy this type of arugment, but socialy it feels like I'm beeing shamed, and I hate it.
I also find it hard to call out this type of behaviur when it happens, even when I can tell exactly what is going on. I think it I had a name for this behaviour it would be easier? Not sure though?
Edit to add:
I've now got some more time to figure out what I want and don't want out of this thread. The early responses helped with this, so thanks!
What I'm most interested in is a name for this behaviour. Naming it helps in at least two ways. It makes it easier to call out in the moment (as mentioned above), but it also makes it easer for me to handle internaly. I can be like "ah, it's this thing again" in my head, rather than being overwelmed.
What I'm not interested is in, is any advice/suggestions that continues the conversation. After a person have pulled one of these moves on me, I am both angry at them, and do not trust them to cooporate in a any form of good faith conversation.
If you have some ideas for how I can end the conversation that does not feel uterly humiliating to me, please tell me. Anything that is phrased like a question is out. I do not want to heare what they have to say, and asking quiestions that you don't want answers to, is wrong and bad.
A reply I got in a similar situation, paraphrased: "well, it's you who identifies as a rationalist, you hypocrite."
In other words, as if by calling myself a rationalist (not in that specific debate, just generally something I said in a different context that my opponent knows about) means that I accept an asymmetrical burden.