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Did you consider looking at it rather from "options" than "goals" perspective? Rather than defining goals and looking for the optimal path to get there, you can look at /brainstorm exploitable options that you have available and seem to have high returns. And then prioritize them. I recently spent half a day writing down cool ideas for things to do, then collected them in todoist, and since then, whenever I have time I go through them. And add something new.
Kids, location, finances, and health are all extraordinarily high-leverage to think about - at least if you act on your plans.
Personally I'd start with personal finance, mostly because it should be pretty quick and simple to sort out (not always easy, to stick to, but simple). The personalfinance reddit has good flowcharts to follow, and I wrote a list of investing resources here if you want more detail than "buy index funds and get on with the rest of your life".